I received this in my email today 04062005. I felt it was
information that needed to be shared. I may not agree with
everything that is written but I do defend your right to decide
052508--Since we are now facing a determined effort by big
pharmaceuticals to give our daughters yet another vaccination
to prevent cancers associated with multiple sex partners, this
article has even more impact.
IN DEFENSE OF A LITTLE VIRGINITYThe Federal Government
has spent billions of our taxes since 1970 to promote
contraceptives and “safe sex” among our teenagers. Isn’t it
time we asked, What have we gotten for our money?
These are the facts:
The Federal Center for Disease Control estimate that there
are now over 1 million known cases of HIV infections
1 in 100 students coming to the University of Texas health
center now carries the deadly HIV virus.
The rate of heterosexual HIV transmission has increased
steadily since Sept. 1989.
Sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) infect approximately 3
million teenagers annually.
63% of all STD cases occur among persons less than 25 years
1 million new cases of pelvic inflammatory disease occur
1.3 million new cases of gonorrhea occur annually, strains
of gonorrhea have developed that are resistant to
Syphilis is at a 40 year high, with 134,000 new infections
500,000 new cases of herpes occur annually, it is estimated
that 16.4% of the U.S. population ages 15-74 is infected,
totaling more than 25 million Americans - among certain age
groups the infection rate is as high as 60%.
4 million cases of chlamydeous occur annually, 10-30% of
15-19 year olds are infected.
There are now 24 million cases of human, papilloma virus
(HPV), with a higher prevalence among teens.
To date (1990), there are over 20 different and dangerous
sexually transmitted diseases that are rampant among the young.
Add to that the problems associated with promiscuous behavior:
infertility, abortion and infected newborns. The cost of this
epidemic is staggering both in human suffering and in expense
to society: yet epidemiologist tell us we’ve only seen the
Incredibly, the safe-sex gurus and condom promoters who got
us into this mess are still determining our policy regarding
adolescent sexuality. Their ideas have failed, and it is time
to rethink their bankrupt policies.
How long has it been since you’ve heard anyone tell
teenagers why it is to their advantage to remain virgins until
married? The facts are being withheld from them, with tragic
consequences. Unless we come to terms with the sickness that
stalks a generation of Americans, teen promiscuity will
continue, and millions of kids, thinking they are protected,
will suffer for the rest of their lives. Many of whom will die
There is only one safe way to remain healthy in the midst of
a sexual revolution. It is to abstain from intercourse until
marriage, and then wed and be faithful to an uninfected
partner. It is a concept that was widely endorsed in society
until the 1960’s. Since then, a “better idea” has come along -
one that now threatens the entire human family.
Inevitable questions are raised whenever abstinence is
proposed. It’s time we gave some clear answers:
Why apart from moral considerations, do you think teenagers
should be taught to abstain from sex until marriage?
No other approach to the epidemic of sexually transmitted
disease will work. The so-called “safe-sex” solution is a
disaster in the making. Condoms can fail at least 15.7% of the
time in preventing pregnancy. They fail 36.6% of the time to
prevent pregnancy among young unmarried minority women. In a
study of homosexual men, the British Medical Journal reported
the failure rate due to slippage and breakage to be 26%. Given
these findings, it is obvious why we have a word for people who
rely on condoms as a means of birth control. We call them
Remembering that a woman can only conceive one or two days
per month, we can only guess how high the failure rate for
condoms must be in preventing diseases, which can be
transmitted 365 days per year! If the devices are not used
properly, or if they slip just once, viruses and bacteria are
exchanged and the disease process begins. One mistake after 500
protected episodes is all it takes to contact a sexually
transmitted disease. The damage is done in a single moment when
rational thought is overridden by passion.
Those who would depend on so insecure a method must use it
properly on every occasion and even then a high failure rate is
brought about by the factors beyond their control. The young
victim who is told by his elders that this little latex device
is “safe” may not know he is risking lifelong pain and even
death for so brief a window of pleasure. What burden to place
on an immature mind and body.
Then we must recognize that there are other differences
between pregnancy prevention and disease prevention. HIV is
1/25th the width of sperm, and can pass easily through even the
smallest gaps in condoms. Researchers studying surgical gloves
made out of latex, the same material in condoms, found
“channels of 5 microns that penetrated the entire thickness of
the glove.” HIV measures 1 micron. Given these findings, what
rational, informed person would trust his or her very life to
such flimsy armor?
This is surely why not one of the 800 sexologist at a
conference years ago raised a hand when asked if they would
trust a thin rubber sheath to protect them during intercourse
with a known HIV infected person. Who could blame them? They’re
not crazy after all. And yet they’re perfectly willing to tell
our kids that “safe-sex” is within reach and that they can
sleep around with impunity.
There is only one way to protect ourselves from the deadly
diseases that lie in wait. It is abstinence before marriage and
mutual fidelity for life to an uninfected partner. Anything
less is potentially suicidal.
That position is simply NOT realistic today. It’s an
unworkable solution: kids will not implement it.
Some will. Some won’t. It’s still the only answer. But let’s
talk about an “unworkable solution” of the first order. Since
1970, the federal government has spent billions to promote
contraception and “safe sex”. This year alone, 450 million
dollars of your tax dollars will go down the drain! (Compared
with less than 8 million for abstinence programs, which Sen.
Teddy Kennedy and company have sought repeatedly to eliminate
altogether.) Isn’t it time we ask what we’ve gotten for our
money? After 22 years and nearly $3 billion, some 58% of
teenage girls under 18 still did not use contraception during
their first intercourse. Furthermore, teenagers tend to keep
having “unprotected” intercourse for a full year, on average,
before starting any kind of contraception. That is the success
ratio of the experts who call abstinence “unrealistic” and
Even if we spend another $50 billion to promote condom
usage, most teenagers would still not use them consistently and
properly. The nature of human beings and the passion of the act
simply do not lend themselves to disciplined response in young
But if you knew a teenager was going to have intercourse,
wouldn’t you teach him or her about proper condom usage?
No, because that approach has an unintended consequence. The
process of recommending condom usage to teenagers inevitably
conveys five dangerous ideas: (1) that “safe sex” is
achievable: (2) that everybody is doing it: (3) that
responsible adults expect them to do it: (4) that it’s a good
thing: and (5) that their peers know they know these things,
breeding promiscuity. Those are very destructive messages to
give our kids.
Furthermore, Planned Parenthood own data show that the
number one reason teenagers engage in intercourse is peer
pressure! Therefore anything we do to imply that “everybody is
doing it” results in more, not fewer, people who give the game
a try. Condom distribution programs do not reduce the number of
kids exposed to disease, they radically increase it!
Want proof to the fact? Since the federal government began
its major contraception program in 1970, unwed pregnancies have
increased 87% among 15-19 year olds. Likewise, abortions among
teens rose 67%, unwed births went up 61%. And venereal disease
has infected a generation of young people. Nice job, sex
counselors. Good thinking senators and congressman. Nice nap,
Having made a blunder that now threatens the human family,
one would think the designers would be backtracking and
apologizing for their miscalculations. Instead, they continue
to lobby Congress and corporate America for more money. Given
the misinformation extant on this subject, they’ll probably get
But if you were a parent and know that our son or daughter
was having sex, wouldn’t you rather he or she used a
How much risk is acceptable when you’re talking about your
teenager’s life? One study of married couples in which one
partner was infected with HIV found that 17% of the partners
using condoms for protection still caught the disease within a
year and a half. Telling our teens to “reduce the risk” to one
in sex (17%) is not much better than advocating Russian
roulette. Both are fatal, eventually. The difference is that
with the gun, death is quicker. Suppose your son or daughter
were joining an 18-month skydiving club of six members. If you
knew that one of their parachutes would definitely fail, would
you recommend that they simple buckle the chutes tighter?
Certainly not. You would say, “Please don’t jump. Your life is
at stake!” How could a loving parent do less.
Kids won’t listen to the abstinence message. You’re just
wasting your breath to try to sell them a notion like that
It is a popular myth that teenagers are incapable of
understanding that it is in their best interest to save
themselves until marriage. Almost 65% of all high school
females under 18 are virgins.
A few years ago in Lexington, Kentucky, a youth event was
held that featured no sports contest, no rock groups - just an
ex-convict named Harold Morris talking about abstinence, among
other subjects. The coliseum seated 18,000 people, but 26,000
teenagers showed up! Eventually, more than 2,000 stood outside
the packed auditorium and listened over a hastily prepared
public address system. Who says kids won’t listen to this
Even teens who have been sexually active can choose to stop.
This is often called “secondary virginity,’ a good concept that
conveys the idea that kids can start over. One young girl
recently wrote Ann Landers to say she wished she had kept her
virginity, signing the letter, “Sorry I didn’t and wish I could
take it back.” As responsible adults we need to tell her that
even though she can’t go back, she can go forward. She can
regain her self-respect and protect her health, because it is
never too late to start saying “no” to premarital sex.
Even though the safe-sex advocates predominate in
educational circles, are there no positive examples of
abstinence-based programs for kids?
Thankfully, some excellent programs have been developed.
Spokane-based Teen Aid and Chicago’s Southwest Parents
Committee are good examples. So are Next Generation in
Maryland, Choices in California and Respect Inc. in Illinois.
Other curricula such as Facing Reality; Sex Respect: Me, My
Future; Reasonable Reasons to Wait; Sex, Love and Choices;
F.A.C.T.S. etc. are all abstinence-themed programs to help kids
make good sexual decisions.
A good curriculum for inner-city youth is Elayne Bennett’s
Best Friends Program. This successful “mentoring” project helps
adolescents in Washington, D.C. graduate from high school and
remain abstinent. In five years, not one female has become
pregnant while in the Best Friends Program!
Establishing and nurturing abstinence ideas with kids;
however, can be like spitting into the wind. Not because they
won’t listen, because most will. But pro-abstinence messages
are drowned out in a sea of toxic
teen-sex-is-inevitable-use-a-condom propaganda from “safe-sex”
You place major responsibility on those who have told
adolescents that sexual expression is their right as long as
they do it “properly.” Who else has contributed to the
The entertainment industry must certainly share the blame,
including television producers. It is interesting in this
context that all four networks and the cable television
entities are wringing their hands about this terrible epidemic
of AIDS. They profess to be very concerned about those who are
infected with sexually transmitted diseases, and perhaps they
are sincere. However, TV executives and movie Mongols have
contributed mightily to the existence of this plague. For
decades, they have depicted teens and young adults climbing in
and out of each other’s beds like so many sexual robots. Only
the nerds were shown to be chaste, and that’s because they were
too stupid or ugly to find partners. Of course the beautiful
young actors in those steamy dreams never faced any
consequences for their sexual indulgences. No one ever came
down with herpes, or syphilis, or chlamydeous, or pelvic
inflammatory disease, or infertility, or AIDS, or genital
warts, or cervical cancer. No patients were ever told by a
physician that there was no cure for their disease or that they
would have to deal with the pain for the rest of their lives.
No one ever heard that genital cancer associated with the human
papilloma virus (HPV) kill more women than AIDS, or that
strains of gonorrhea are now resistant to penicillin.
No, there was no downside. It all looked like so much fun.
But what a price we are paying now for the lies we have been
The government has also contributed to this crisis and
continues to exacerbate the problem. For example a current
brochure from the federal Centers for Disease Control and the
City of New York is entitled, “Teens Have the Right,” and is
apparently intended to free adolescents from adult authority.
Inside are the six declarations that make up a “Teenager’s Bill
of Rights,” as follows:
I have the right to think for myself.
I have the right to decide whether to have sex and who to
have it with.
I have the right to use protection when I have sex.
I have the right to buy and use condoms.
I have the right to express myself.
I have the right to ask for help if I need it.
Under this final item (the right to ask for help) is a list
of organizations and phone numbers that readers are encouraged
to call. The philosophy that governs several of the
organizations reflects the homosexual agenda, which includes
recruitment of the young and vigorous promotion of teen’s right
to sexual expression.
Your tax dollars at work!
Surely there are other Americans who recognize the danger
now threatening a generation of our best and brightest. It is
time to speak up for an old fashioned value called virginity.
Now, more than ever, virtue is a necessity.
For more information contact:
Focus on the Family
Colorado Springs, CO. 80995-6287
Or call, 1 (719) 633-6287